A dear friend's 10 year-old daughter passed away last night. Her name is Kelsey. Kelsey means 'ship's victory.' As one of her loved ones said, 'She has completed her voyage triumphantly.'
I have followed their family's journey over the last 48 hours in a text group of 300+ family members, friends, and those who had never met Kelsey in person but nevertheless felt deeply connected to her radiant spirit. I knew Kelsey before, but not like this. Not like I do now after bearing witness to story after story of parents and children giving testament to her all-embracing heart. Her generous spirit. Kelsey's mother is a builder of vibrant communities. She brought her daughter into contact with so many different people over her short life and made it possible for Kelsey's radiant spirit to touch as many people as can be touched in ten years. As Kelsey lay in a coma, her teachers and classmates and neighbors and spiritual community and cousins sent her voice recordings expressing their love and singing her prayers so that her parents could play them for her. This was a child who had wings even in this world. Who often and sometimes literally put those wings around others and made them feel welcome and cherished. New friends attending camp for the first time who didn't know a soul. Children who had experienced nothing but cruelty from other children at school. Young children who followed her around like ducklings, basking in her kindness. Parents grateful for the way she embraced their children and made them feel loved.
Kelsey's mother requested we honor her in the following ways:
"We love you all and we’re so grateful for the community surrounding us and our sweet girl. The best thing is honestly just prayers for her and (her brother) Parker. Service in her name. And making spaces of joy in her honor. She loved art and baking and cats and being with her brother. Making forts and stuffie ziplines, swimming and chickens. She loved to run and she felt deeply connected to her loved ones, teachers and closest friends. We love you all, as we know she loved you each too. Please don’t be sad for me, I feel the most fortunate to have been given all the time I had with her. Everyone in my family is on their own emotional journey, and it will look different at different times. Be assured we’ll all be okay in the end. Thank you for enveloping us in all that you have. We are so grateful to you."
Stories are already starting to pour in about the acts of service and spaces of joy being created in Kelsey's name. Her transition has unleashed a tidal wave of love. You are now someone who has been touched by her radiance. Let her light move through you.
Thank you for allowing me to process my own grief and awe in words. Here are a few of the passages from the Baha'i Faith that were shared for Kelsey over the last couple days that I keep returning to. The first was shared by her own mother. I am sharing them with you now for when your own loss is too great:
O bird of the Rose-garden of Fidelity! Be of no cheerless heart; have no wing nor feather broken; sigh not, neither do thou wail, and sit not chilled in a corner. The little girl lamented is in the divine Rose-garden in the highest happiness, delight, cheerfulness and gratification. Why then art thou grieved, sorrowing with a bleeding heart? This is the day of rejoicing and the hour of ecstasy! This is the season of the dead arising from the graves and gathering together! And this is the promised time for the attainment of plenteous grace. Be calm, be strong, be grateful, and become a lamp full of light, that the darkness of sorrows be annihilated, and that the sun of everlasting joy arise from the dawning-place of heard and soul, shining brightly. Upon thee be the Glory of the Most-Glorious!
He is God!
O peerless Lord! Praised be Thou for having kindled that light in the glass of the Concourse on high, for having guided that bird of faithfulness to the nest of the Abhá Kingdom. Thou hast joined that precious river to the mighty sea, Thou hast returned that spreading ray of light to the Sun of Truth. Thou hast welcomed that captive of remoteness into the garden of reunion, and led him who longed to look upon Thee to Thy presence in Thy bright place of lights.
That beloved child addresseth thee from the hidden world: 'O thou kind Mother, thank divine Providence that I have been freed from a small and gloomy cage and, like the birds of the meadows, have soared to the divine world -- a world which is spacious, illumined, and ever gay and jubilant. Therefore, lament not, O Mother, and be not grieved; I am not of the lost, nor have I been obliterated and destroyed. I have shaken off the mortal form and have raised my banner in this spiritual world. Following this separation is everlasting companionship. Thou shalt find me in the heaven of the Lord, immersed in an ocean of light.'
There is a Garden of God. Human beings are trees growing therein. The Gardener is Our Father. When He sees a little tree in a place too small for her development, He prepares a suitable and more beautiful place, where she may grow and bear fruit. Then He transplants that little tree. The other trees marvel, saying: ‘This is a lovely little tree. For what reason does the Gardener uproot it?’ “The Divine Gardener, alone, knows the reason.
O my God, Thy Trust hath been returned unto Thee. It behooveth Thy grace and Thy bounty that have compassed Thy dominions on earth and in heaven, to vouchsafe unto Thy newly welcomed one Thy gifts and Thy bestowals, and the fruits of the tree of Thy grace!
O thou beloved maidservant of God, although the loss of a son is indeed heart-breaking and beyond the limits of human endurance, yet one who knoweth and understandeth is assured that the son hath not been lost but, rather, hath stepped from this world into another, and she will find him in the divine realm. That reunion shall be for eternity, while in this world separation is inevitable and bringeth with it a burning grief.
I have, O my Lord, offered up that which Thou hast given Me, that Thy servants may be quickened, and all that dwell on earth be united.
